So often we are focused on boldly stating our intentions – our wants, likes and dislikes, our proud manifestations – and connecting with how we feel about them.  Or about a situation, a person or a subject that we like or dislike and then immediately how we feel.  

I feel… I manifest… I intend…

An example: Lately I’ve been staying in a beautiful home while doing research. I’m around the one single homeowner almost every day and then most days I see the same people at certain locales. 

We get along well, but I’ve reached that point we often do when around the same people and in the same situation day after day after day. Exasperated and slightly annoyed at some random thing, I stated to myself loudly: “I don’t want to look at them today!” Then a self coaching moment of psycholinguistics – the psychology of our language – immediately took over in a feat of impulse intervention and I corrected myself! Now consider this the next time you make one of these bold statements:

Do I really not want to see? Are the other people and the locales really the problem? Do I want to focus on my intention or frustration?

In what ways and with what words to you express your frustrations – your unintentional intentions!

When you do, ask yourself, as I did: “What do I really want?”

We can often mistake a sudden verbal or mental expression of frustration to be authentic. But be truly authentic and distinctively honest enables us to acknowledge what could otherwise be considered negative parts of our own feelings and experience. Instead we can connect to our entire ouvre of emotions, wants, and feelings and create a new perspecitve, a new habit of expression. A new empowerment for ourselves, our experience, and what will be manifest. Instead I state: I release the beauty of my truth. 

With great appreciation for recent experiences, I immediately declared I want to be somewhere else, that I am ready to move on. I’m not finished with my project, but I immediately had an awareness of uncertainty that is holding me back, but with clarity of what I want. It’s not the fault of the others.

So as you go through your day or week, pay attention to these kinds of words and phrases that habitually appear in this kind of talk. You might notice you do it more often than you’ve realized! Reviewing and stating the truth of your words can not only maximize the funcionality of our language, but connect us to true expression, the beauty of our surroundings, and empower our intentions into actions we are brave enough to fulfill.

Now I am standing in the beautiful garden near running water and enjoying everything I see, ready for new adventures as uncertainty gives way to clarity. A new beauty appears in language and light.